25 Years Married, Yesterday. Yikes!

Really? 25 years married to the same guy? I got my oldest boy to go dig out the wedding album. His first comment was, "Wow, I didn't realize you had colour back then", this sent me into a fit of laughter that had him looking at me like I had lost it, and the old folks home was not far off.

No marriage is without it's bumps, but we have worked them out, and our relationship is stronger than when we were all starry eyed and hot to trot. Commitment to each other, and to our marriage has allowed us to grow as a couple and most importantly, has given our boys a stable family life so that they can thrive.

We are starting to think about when the boys leave home, and it will just be the two of us again. Hubby is from PEI and it calls him back all the time. His anniversary gift to me , was a wonderful picture of PEI, you can almost smell the ocean and hear the sea gulls.


I love the island and the people. One of my favorite places is French River. The colours are stunning, as an Alberta born girl, I have a certain fascination with the ocean, especially the shellfish.


What did I get my hubby? An antique "Billy the Kid" pocket knife, that is just too cool. He is very hard to get anything for, because he just goes and buys anything he needs. I also got him a WWII medal and a silver coin.


No big party, just beef stroganoff and caesar salad for supper. I am busy learning how to restore antique furniture, I am trying my hand on a $15 garage sale find. Anyone know what kind of wood this is??

Oh well, have power sander, will grind away! Marriage is a lot like that, keep polishing until you reach the point that you want to apply the sealant. Very rewarding when you work together.

To Divorce Or Not To Divorce? That Is The Question.

Remember the 60's? That was the age of flower children and drugs and freedom from the bra. Feminists had a goal and they achieved it. Abortions. Equality. Getting out of the kitchen. They had a purpose. I might disagree with the abortion position, but they did a lot to advance the cause of females, for that I applaud them.

Where are they now? Or, I should say, what are they now? What is a feminist these days? They have achieved all their goals, but they are so addicted to their cause they refuse to acknowledge they have become irrelevant.

One of the most harmful things that feminists have achieved is abortion. What Mother cuts her baby into pieces, legally? Do they feel better because it is legal? I don't think so. Maybe in the 60's when it was taboo to be pregnant out of wedlock, it was an issue, especially before birth control. Today, we even have the morning after pill, so why does any woman have to have an abortion? It should be a non-issue in this day and age. Feminists are lazy, they can't even get off their butts in the morning to take the morning after pill.

Feminists need to get out of the 60's. Our bodies, our choice? How about you engage your brains and stop having unprotected sex.

Another thing the 60's feminists brought us was divorce. Don't like the guy you married anymore because he leaves the toilet seat up, divorce him. It's about me, and my feelings. The pioneers stayed married, raised families and thrived. Our society right now is sick. We have more fatherless homes by the day. Our children need both parents, they need stability, they need both Mom and Dad. Our courts refuse to acknowledge that fact because feminists have convinced them that children only need Mom, and that Dad is only the wallet. That is discrimination against Dad.

Barbara Kay: Sticking it out in marriage is a good thing

Why did the numbers start going down? One reason, which the study notes, is the tendency for people to marry later. But I would also tie both the divorce peak and its diminution to the rise and decline of militant feminism’s influence. Seventy percent of divorces are initiated by women. Feminism of the man-dismissive type was a strong influence in the ‘70s and ‘80s. In the 90s, however, third-wave feminism relegated the man-haters to the fringes of the movement, and marriage regained respectability as an institution. I predict the numbers will go further down when Canada finally institutes equal parenting as the default custodial policy, as it has in jurisdictions where that is presently the case.

If you get married because the sex is good, you are an idiot. Marriage is about a long term commitment, especially when kids are involved. Don't like the way the guy squeezes the toothpaste tube? How shallow can you be? This trend is only going to get worse, because generation X is all about me, not us.

Let's Swing Into Cheating!

We all know that swingers clubs are legal in Canada. What's the harm? Consenting married couples go to a club and have sex with other consenting married couples. It spices up their sex life and allows them to spread the love around. No drinks are served so 16 and 17 year olds are allowed, just to add extra spice. It's not illegal, it's not prostitution because no money is exchanged, and it's not immoral because the courts have ruled that it is okay. Nice.

Now, the new craze is to cheat on your partner to spice up your marriage. That's right, cheat and enrich your marriage. Who knew?

Cheating makes 'better partners,' infidelity guru says

His wife obviously agrees as this picture shows:



Look closely at her eyes, she is so happy about the cheating she can barely contain herself. Every woman must be jealous of her and her progressive husband. Watch the video at the link, then tell me how happy she is about his "business".

"I think people who have affairs are totally misunderstood and for the most part they're people who are suffering. They're really lonely within their own marriage and when you're lonely there's a biological driver that's going to make you act out to change that," Biderman said earlier this week in an interview with Canada AM.

"So they tend to have affairs, they have dalliances, and often it makes them better partners, better parents, better bosses, better employees. It's hard for people to accept that, but it's the truth."

This guy has no concept of what commitment actually means in a marriage. An affair makes someone a "better" partner? What happened to "tell death do us part"? I can tell you if my hubby cheated on me, he would be booted out of my life so fast he wouldn't know what happened to him. Luckily he knows I'm a better shot then he is! (That's for you progressives, who hate guns, but think cheating and swinging is "cool".)

Dr. Carole Lieberman -- Beverly Hills psychiatrist and author of "Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them and When to Leave Them" -- disagrees that cheating strengthens relationships.

On one hand, cheating "can make a dull marriage more exciting, at least temporarily," Lieberman told CTV.ca in an email interview.

"But, in the end, most marriages suffer terribly from cheating and ultimately break apart because of the loss of respect and trust."

Respect and trust. If progressives think it's okay to have swingers clubs and to cheat, do they have any concept of what actually makes a marriage work? Are these finally the illusive Liberal values we have been hearing about?

The comments are interesting, read them all!

This person needs some help, I know a good shrink that maybe able to help him. I have been married for 36 years and in all honesty I have not had a desire to go to bed with another woman. I did all of my running around before I was married. I see marriage as a commitment between two people,if there is no commitment then what is the purpose of getting married? Our society needs help in the worst way, but not from someone like him. In marriage for the first few years it is all about sex after that it becomes respect and trust in your partner and the longer it goes the more of a friend that person becomes. If you want to cheat, stay single and do your own thing,so you can go on without hurting anyone especially children, who are the most affected by break ups.

Religion gets slammed by the progressives all the time, maybe it's time for those with morals to stand up and tell the progressives that cheating is not ever good for a marriage.

A Simple Fix To The Priest Problem.

I have accused Islam of making women slaves, because a husband can starve his wife if she refuses his advances. Or the family can kill her if she goes out without a male relative. Can you imagine as a female in Canada, having those rules imposed upon you?

In fairness, I now have to turn my viewfinder to Catholic Priests.

The Catholic faith does not allow Priests to marry, I have disagreed with this policy for over 30 years. It is my biggest problem with my faith. The Catholic Church is losing Priests, and no young people want to become Priests anymore. It used to be a joyous occasion if a son went into the Priesthood. Mom's used to encourage their sons to enter the Church. That day is gone, as it should be. Asking a man to deny all sexual contact with females, is wrong. Same with making Nuns take a vow of chastity, to serve God. You can serve God while married, and serve your parishioners better because you will understand their problems better.

How can a married couple having problems in their marriage, go to a Priest who has never been married or had children? He can't understand the issues at the most basic level because he has never been in any situation even close to marriage. They can read all the books they want, but until they have lived the life, they can only spout theories or refer to their parents marriage. It is not healthy to isolate our Priests and expect them to become saints, without sexual feelings.

One of my favorite Priests was re-assigned to a Church in north Edmonton by a Monseigneur who didn't like him. Actually, without him, I probably wouldn't have gotten married because my non-Catholic hubby didn't like any of the Priests, except for this smoking, drinking, Newfoundlander. Talking to the Priest after Church we found out he had no help in moving him to his new parish, so we told him we would help.

Saturday arrived, we pulled up with our truck, ready for a full day of moving the Priest to his new home. He had 4 boxes including his clothes. It took us one trip. I will never forget, leaving him, with his few belongings, in a strange place, where no one bothered to come to greet him. It was heartbreaking.

That Sunday we made a special trip to his new parish to listen to his Mass. He saw us in the back and thanked us for our support. You see Priests are people too. They have feelings, and suffer from anxiety when moving to a new "job" just like everyone does.

Just like Muslims who follow Islam need to get the radical elements under control, Catholics can not sweep bad behaviour under the rug either. Thankfully Catholics have matured from the crusader days, but they still need to change in one very important way...let their Priests and Nuns marry if they want to. Being Ukrainian, I remember their Priests being able to marry, none of them have been accused of abuse that I know of. Jewish rabbis, who can marry, seem to be abuse free as well. It seems to be a pattern.

If the Catholic Church wants to grow, they need to allow their Priests to marry. No young guy these days, is going to decide to give up marriage to follow God, and I don't think God expects that of them. Marriage for our Priests would be healthier than expecting them to forget they are males, same goes for the Nuns, expected to be married to God.

A simple fix to the Priest problem, let them marry!

In Praise Of Teens!

First, I want to thank my two sons for being trouble free teens. Thanks boys! They respect us as their parents, but in return we respect them as individuals. It's a very difficult time in their lives with their bodies changing, and their need for independence fighting their desire to remain coddled. They want to grow up, just not too fast, and that's okay by me!

It's funny how the liberals have worked so hard to reduce restrictions in our society and yet, teenagers are going back to the days of personal responsibility and moral living.

The image of the rebellious teen, experimenting with sex and drugs and alcohol at a rate that worries their parents, needs to be revised to reflect what has become an increasingly virtuous demographic, according to a sweeping new survey of Canadian youth.

Today's teens are rewarding their vigilant parents with good behaviour: They are less likely to smoke, drink or take drugs than they were eight years ago. And 56% of teens have never had sex, up from 51% in 2000. In fact, the weekly sexual activity of teenagers is about on par with that of adults over 60.

Yikes! This is not what the liberals expected, what happened to free love and drugs? How can children from divorced families think that marriage and kids are preferable to free sex and drugs?

When it comes to family life, many expect they will cohabitate before they marry, but 91% plan to tie the knot.

Almost half want two children, more than a quarter of them want three children, 10% want four children and 4% want at least five children. As well, 90% of teenage boys and 90% of teenage girls expect they will stay with the same partner for life.

91% plan to marry and stay with the same partner for life? What about those swingers clubs? Free sex without worry because abortion is so easy. I don't think feminists are going to like these stats very much. Obviously our schools are not lefty enough! HA! Not only are they failing to convince teenagers that the hippy days of free sex and drugs are here again, they are failing to destroy the family unit. Remember it is the feminists who are all for "choice", wonder what they are going to do about these female teens choosing to get married, have babies and stay with their partner for life?

The feminists are going to have to get shriller and more militant because their message is just not getting across to their target audience. They will be screaming for daycare because they know you have to get them young to indoctrinate them for life. Maybe if feminists would have stopped killing their babies, they would have some teenagers to support their agenda today. They are dying a slow death by abortion.

Clearly the days of burning your bras, doing drugs and killing your babies are history. Our younger generation is looking towards graduating from university, getting good paying jobs, having meaningful life long relationships and bringing their children into this world as part of those stable relationships.

It appears the day of the feminist is dead, and the day of the family is back!