Thursday, January 15, 2009

Respect For Single Mom's.

I asked a young adult the other day, why do we still have people poor people in Canada, the response was "bad choices in life".

This got me thinking about single mom's. They had a choice according to the abortion supporters, they could have killed the baby and gone on with life as if nothing had happened. Instead, they kept the baby and now face a more difficult life because of their choice. Funny that not very many single mom's I have met regret the choice they made, most are the proudest mom's you could ever meet.

Single mom's are not just young unmarried women like we hear about all the time, they are divorced women, immigrant women, and married women with husbands that work away from home. Two of my son's friends are from immigrant families, one from China and one from Africa, their fathers are back in China and Africa working, so the kids see them rarely. The mom's are left with the task of raising the family without the father, and both boys are wonderful kids. They both respect their mom's, and help them with the other kids. They are not out hanging around at the mall, they are home studying.

Funny how feminists want us to kill our kids before they are born so we can work, and when we don't, they accuse us of being bad mother's because we work to support them. Bad kids are blamed on single mom's, never the absent dad.

I think we should help single mom's by paying their tuition and child care expenses if they go back to school and pass. Instead of having the welfare mom who pops out kids faster because she gets more for each kid, while she is living with a guy who works in the oil patch and earns excellent money, (yes this does happen) get them off the gravy train, with education. The welfare mom should only get more funds if she goes to school and upgrades her skills. Let her get a bonus for passing but only if she gets and holds down a job for a year.

This has been done with some success in Canada.

Description of the intervention: The Canadian Self-Sufficiency Project, administered by the provincial governments of British Columbia and New Brunswick, provided monthly cash payments (“earnings supplements”) to long-term recipients of income assistance (Canadian equivalent to U.S. welfare), contingent on their finding full-time employment and leaving the income assistance program. Canadian Self-Sufficiency Project participants had one year to find full-time employment, and thus become eligible for the supplements. Participants could receive supplements for up to three years as long as they continued to work full-time.

The earnings supplements were sizeable. As an illustrative example -- based on the experiment’s formula for determining the size of a supplement payment, a single mother in New Brunswick who worked full-time for a year and earned $20,000 would receive monthly supplements totaling $5,000 for that year.*

The program cost $5,000-$8,000 per year per welfare recipient offered an earnings supplement (the precise cost depended on the specific welfare population to which it was offered). However, as discussed below, the program's net costs to the government were much lower than this amount because the program substantially increased income tax revenues and reduced government welfare payments.


This program seemed to work....in the short term, but not in the long term. So, with some changes like education grants, it might work in the long term. It's something worth looking into.

I respect single mom's who make the decision to keep their child even though they know it will make their lives more difficult. I respect those single mom's who go back to school, or university/college, I can't imagine how hard it is for them.

Let's encourage single mom's to go back to school, and discourage those who just want to live on welfare. Forget about giving unions higher wages, and give single mom's self respect and a sense of honour for the choice they made.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

Pssst, Hunter. Single moms - without the apostrophe (for a plural). Not that I'm anal about spelling or anything like that. LOL.

Southern Quebec said...

Hahahahaha - sooooo elitist EofE. Hunter don't need no stinkin' spelling lesson from an Easterner...hahahahha

I didn't point it out because I am a pest....

Anonymous said...

SQ - double negative. You shouldn't be saying that Hunter needs a stinking spelling lesson.

Hunter - how about a nod to single fathers, as well.

Anonymous said...

BTW - I am from Winnipeg - not quite an Easterner.

Alberta Girl said...

and....back to the topic.

"I respect single mom's who make the decision to keep their child even though they know it will make their lives more difficult. I respect those single mom's who go back to school, or university/college, I can't imagine how hard it is for them."

As someone who became a grandmother when her 16 year old daughter became pregnant; I speak from experience. I do have to say that there are support groups out there that helped my daughter. Of course, she and her daughter got a tremendous amount of help from their families. The father stuck around for a while then just decided he did not want to be a dad and my now 15 year old grandaughter has not seen him since she was four. I know it has affected her in many ways; which breaks my heart.

Do I have an answer to Hunter's post having been involved in the situation - no; but I do agree with what she says.

Anonymous said...

A-Girl: did your daughter ever marry or find a man with whom she could spend her life? I hope she did. She was lucky to have you there to provide support.

Southern Quebec said...

E of E -- That was a Dirty Harry quote...sheesh...

Alberta Girl said...

EoE - yes she did and now she has four kids - of course that grandaughter holds a special place in my husbands and my heart because they lived with us while my daughter finished school and worked until they moved away from our town so she could pursue higher education.

Thank you for your thoughts.

Anonymous said...

A-Girl: God bless you and your husband for being so good to your girl and for making your first grandchild a loved and secure child. It's good that your daughter completed her education and to be honest, she's probably a great mother because of your example.

If more parents were like you and your husbands, we would not have such a great need for government safety nets for children.

maryT said...

AG, we have something in common and I agree that the first one is so special. And I will add that the father did not get on with his own life till our daughter finished her education and eventually got married. You met his sister.
Maybe that is why I liked Sarah so much.

Anonymous said...

MaryT - I admire Sarah and Todd for the way in which they handles Bristol's pregnancy. The were honest when they said that it wasn't what they envisioned for their daughter but they accepted that it would be difficult for her and that they were behind her 100%. They didn't try to hide the fact that she was pregnant nor did they try to sugarcoat it - what they said was absolutely correct - the coming of a baby is a blessing but it will be a challenge for their daughter and the father of their baby.

I also admire her mightily for not aborting her own Downs baby. No matter how you slice the cake, raising a special needs child comes with its challenges and it isn't every parent who can handle it. It cracks me up that she was criticized by the pro-choice wing for not aborting. It seems that pro-choice means only one choice - abortion and woe is any woman who decides otherwise. Lefties are kind of like that - you're free to choose OUR way. Any other choice is not acceptable.

Kudos to those parents who stand behind their children who become parents at such a young age. It goes to show that the old ways were viable and better than government intervention: stand by your children and hold them close. Parenthood comes with responsibility and far too many parents abdicate that responsibility. It is a sad commentary on our times when responsible parents are the exception rather than the rule. Kudos to you, as well, MaryT.